The After School Club has been going very well. Very smooth and without much excitement. So....it was about time for something to happen.
One of the activities is Sports and Games run by a very sweet gal who is really willing to put up with a great deal for the sake of helping out! She currently has 12 boys signed up. She hasn't ever had that many because regular attendance is not a big deal out here (= Anyone who knows anything about boys out here knows that this situation is a set up for trouble! Boys are given the right of way to do anything and everything and it is just sort of expected that they will misbehave. So big surprise that they are rowdy and out of control much of the time. Layla's school is really trying to reign this in and transform this expectation.
The excitement for this week's Club was my physically DRAGGING and WRESTLING a boy out of her room. The whole time I was thinking "What should I do? What should I do? Is this okay? What on earth do the other kids think of this? There is no way I'm letting this little bugger get the best of me...I WILL get him out of this room" Or something like that.
Man. I'm still not sure what the appropriate thing was, but I finally was able to drag him from around the back of the door where he was crouching. I marched him to the front office where he sat and ignored me the whole time. Typically, the school receptionists were not surprised to see him. Usually kids who behave like that spend a lot of time in the principal's office!
So I have had lots of thoughts going through my mind like:
What are we really trying to do here?
How do we want to deal with "problem" children....typically there is a back story for every child and out here, it can often be tragic.
What in the world will I do next week?
Can I please have 5 minutes with his mom??
What is going on with this kid at home?
Well come to find out from one of the receptionists the next day, his parents are either divorced or living that way. His mom lives 2 hours away and he lives with some relatives. Yikes. No wonder he is out of control.
So...here we are. Not sure what to do next week. I'm sure his mother has very little way of controlling a child she is not even living with. I suppose the easiest thing is to just chuck him out of the program but the bleeding heart part of me (yes, it is there, though small) wants to give the kid a chance since the cards are so stacked against him already in second grade!
I'll let you know how next week goes on Monday (=